Advice Day.
((The following are messages asking for advice and my replies))
Dear Yes Mother Knows Best
I'm hoping you can help me out. I've been dating the same person for just over a year, although we've known each other since we were teenagers. I do love and care about him deeply, hard not to after all these years of being close, but recently I've noticed he only wants to be intimate when we talk about his ex. This is making me feel like I'm not good enough, what should I do?
From Worried And In Love.
Dear Worried And In Love.
There are a few questions I would ask myself in your position. First how long was it between him leaving his ex and him getting with you? If it was only a short gap it could be a case of he knows you are safe and he does care about you so he fell into rebound with you. Secondly is this a new thing or has it been that way since you first started dating but you are only just noticing it? Think back to the beginning of the relationship, when he used to be intimate back then was it after you had spoken about her or not? If yes then my answer is the same as to the first question and if not then you need to find out why she is suddenly on his mind.
Whatever the answers to the questions above you need to think about how all of this is making you feel. Talk to him and openly and tell him what you feel is happening and how it is making you feel. Put a ban on her name being mentioned on a night before bed and see if things change.
The best advice when it comes to relationships I found came from my grandma many many years ago.. If you are unhappy and there seems like there is no solution to solve that and be happy together then it is best to be honest and tell your partner you feel it is best to go your separate ways relationship wise. After all partners will come and go, but the one person you always have to live with is you. Be true to you and allow yourself to be happy and move from things that don't make you happy.
And Yes Mother Knows Best. xx
Dear Yes Mother Knows Best
I'm hoping you can help me out. I've been dating the same person for just over a year, although we've known each other since we were teenagers. I do love and care about him deeply, hard not to after all these years of being close, but recently I've noticed he only wants to be intimate when we talk about his ex. This is making me feel like I'm not good enough, what should I do?
From Worried And In Love.
Dear Worried And In Love.
There are a few questions I would ask myself in your position. First how long was it between him leaving his ex and him getting with you? If it was only a short gap it could be a case of he knows you are safe and he does care about you so he fell into rebound with you. Secondly is this a new thing or has it been that way since you first started dating but you are only just noticing it? Think back to the beginning of the relationship, when he used to be intimate back then was it after you had spoken about her or not? If yes then my answer is the same as to the first question and if not then you need to find out why she is suddenly on his mind.
Whatever the answers to the questions above you need to think about how all of this is making you feel. Talk to him and openly and tell him what you feel is happening and how it is making you feel. Put a ban on her name being mentioned on a night before bed and see if things change.
The best advice when it comes to relationships I found came from my grandma many many years ago.. If you are unhappy and there seems like there is no solution to solve that and be happy together then it is best to be honest and tell your partner you feel it is best to go your separate ways relationship wise. After all partners will come and go, but the one person you always have to live with is you. Be true to you and allow yourself to be happy and move from things that don't make you happy.
And Yes Mother Knows Best. xx
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